Teenagers need someone who gets them. A therapist needs to be there for the teen in therapy, just like a friend would be – somebody they can trust and not feel judged by when it comes time that their guard is down and secrets are told. Adolescents are open to new ideas and viewpoints when they feel most vulnerable. New City is a small town but it doesn’t mean that everything is easy.
We believe that it is important to be open-minded and understanding with teens. We know they may not feel like there’s a problem, but rushing them will only make the situation worse. With years of experience, Courageous Kids Counseling knows what steps and practices to take and what not to take.
Therapy is a way for teenagers to explore their feelings and concerns in order to learn more about themselves. It can be difficult at first, but when you are open with your therapist, they will help guide the process as it unfolds over time so that learning becomes easier on both sides of an interview or conversation together.
When I introduced myself and asked what brought him in, Peter sat there with a sour look on his face. It was clear that this wasn’t something he wanted to do but had no choice.
After getting more information about his school suspension, I asked his mom to give us some time alone. I told him that a lot of teens feel annoyed coming in and out for appointments with me, but we’re both here because this is important so it doesn’t have anything personal against them either way.
I then said that he didn’t have to talk about himself, but if he minded sharing just a bit of information with me it would be preferable. That got him smile slightly as well – so I took this as my cue and started talking.
SI began by asking general questions about his school life and friends. As the conversation continued, he gradually relaxed enough for me to broach the subject of him being suspended from school. It seemed that it is because of his sensitivity and dislike for being humiliated, which led to an argument.
I let him do most of the talking, but tried to ask general questions about how others see his feelings. He spoke very openly and said that he felt insecure with what other people thought when they looked in on their lives together at school or work – especially if those views were negative; so, it’s something we’ll have to explore later!
We worked on analyzing situations about which he felt comfortable and confident, as well ones that made him feel vulnerable. We kept a list of some themes from our conversations. As time went by, he agreed that this was something worth changing.
It was a tricky task, but we were able to show him how he could better manage his anger. He worked on identifying practice situations for future use and even came out with some new insights about himself.
When he was ready to change, we sat down with his mother and shared that this is what needed to happen. Although it seemed like a weight lifted off of him when instead the other person’s perspective became more impartial rather than demonizing or villainizing him in some way.
It’s not always easy to celebrate your teenager’s wins. They may have a difficult time celebrating themselves and can feel like they are on their own individual journey. Maybe they don’t see themselves as successful in their future endeavors or that there will never be another time like this one where everything worked out so beautifully for them – but please do not forget about your teen! It’s important you take time celebrate together.
*Name changed to preserve client confidentiality..