Children’s divorce counseling is quite common just like divorces are common in marriage. While nobody gets into a marriage to split from their partner, for one reason or another, it may simply not work out. Naturally, divorces have a ripple effect when it comes to relationships. This means that it will not only affect you and your spouse but also the people around you. This means that if you have children, then getting a divorce becomes far more complicated.
While adults will generally understand the myriad of reasons why people may choose to get separated, it is far more difficult to process for children. For example, if your divorce involves your child switching homes or schools, then this could make them feel uprooted without reason. In any case, divorces will likely introduce a strong range of behavioral or emotional changes in your child such as resentment, self-hate, or abandonment.
This period of new and sudden feelings is crucial. As a parent, you should think of these new emotions as a fresh but small wound that your child may have received from your separation. This means that they can easily be treated if you give them the right amount of support. However, the longer it is left to fester, the higher the likelihood of these negative emotions becoming permanent, with your child carrying the burden well into their adult life.
While you may already recognize this or have even noticed these changes yourself, I understand that communicating with your child during this period can be difficult, especially as you may already be going through a difficult time. Additionally, several children become more withdrawn during the separation period, making it difficult to speak with them about their emotions.
At Courageous Kids, Counselling, New City, NY, I understand this, which is why our goal is to support parents going through a divorce by offering children’s counseling services. My aim during these sessions is to provide a safe space where your child can fully express their emotions, which allows them to heal and adjust to whatever new setting they may find themselves in.