Parents often wonder if the child-rearing strategies they use are helping to raise well-adapted and happy children. It may not be easy for those struggling with opposition or misbehavior to determine the best strategy to discipline their child. You may also feel like everything you say or do when responding to your child is negative. This can lead parents to believe they are doing something wrong or even harmful. In reality, knowing the right way to discipline your child can help them learn critical skills that foster positive growth and development. Let’s compare a few different styles to identify which may work best for you.
The Permissive Style
The Aggressive Style
At the other end of the spectrum is the aggressive parenting style. This type of parent implements a more structured routine but does not act in a nurturing or caring manner. They are known for being very authoritarian and strict. They have high expectations for their children. However, they often only perceive their point of view as correct and struggle to listen to their child’s perspective. This can result in power struggles between the parent and child. As the parent looks to exert their authority, the child may become angry and rebellious. Children may also develop feelings of depression if they feel defeated and alone. When children feel that they are not listened to and have no outlet, their self-esteem and feeling of self-worth may plummet. This parenting style may lead your child not to turn to you for support or to engage in risk-taking behavior to feel validated.
The Assertive Style
How Can I Parent the Way My Child Needs?
- Acknowledge your child’s feelings by listening to them when they feel bothered.
- Model the behavior you expect from them.
- Be respectful when disciplining your child so they do not feel guilt or shame after an incident.
- Offer choices, so your child feels heard and is part of the decision-making.
- Use praise to demonstrate your approval when they behave in a desired manner.
- Be consistent when implementing rules and expectations.
- Show kindness to your child as you teach them skills they need to be successful.