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Therapy for Teenagers

Ah, the teenage years. It’s so easy to imagine a teen storming out of their home, slamming the door and shouting, “I’m never coming back” Teenagers are known for their whirlwind emotions, often as a result of hormones, puberty and school pressures. Their moods may shift suddenly, feeling sad when rejected by a peer group, angry at authority figures, stressed with mounds of schoolwork or depressed when they have their first break-up.

Approximately 5 million teens in the United States had at least one major depressive episode in 2021. While depression and anxiety are common conditions among teens, they’re also highly treatable. Teen therapy services can be immensely beneficial for your child. Continue reading to learn when to see a therapist for teens and how a teenager counselor can help them thrive at this stage of life.

Therapy for Teens

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Courageous Kids Counseling is a specialized teen therapy practice focused on helping teens struggling with anxiety, depression, and trauma, among other difficulties. We use CBT, DBT, EMDR, biofeedback and other solution-focused approaches.

When your teen is struggling, you need a specialist that can help. We are happy to answer any questions you may have as you navigate this process.

What's Going on With Your Teen?

You might try so hard to talk to your teen when they are struggling, and maybe you don’t even know why they are having a hard time. Teens’ minds are like vaults. They close themselves off from the possibility that other people understand what they are going through.

The pain of feeling alone and lost can make them defensive and guarded. Your teenager is at a point in their development when they need to endure puberty while simultaneously trying to become independent and successful.

There’s a lot of pressure to fit in and figure things out on their own. They often seek out peers to help solve their problems but don’t always get the best advice. In the age of social media and “instant gratification,” adolescents frequently get mixed signals and act rashly based on what they read or hear instead of coming to adults, such as their parents, to figure out how to handle dilemmas.

Their problems can escalate and trigger a cascade of new issues. You’re just not looped in on what’s going on internally with your teenager. It’s not as if you are saying the wrong thing — it’s just that your teen is at a different place in their emotional tolerance. Don’t despair — keep talking and let them know things are not so dismal. Give them suggestions and show them they have options.

Your opinions as a parent matter more than you might think. Whether they realize it or not, adolescents crave their parents’ support and need their attention just as much as when they were younger. Don’t give up on them. Now is when they need you most.

When Should I Seek Teen Therapy Services for My Child?

When Should I Seek Teen Therapy Services for My Child?

It can be challenging to know when to seek teen counseling, but generally, the sooner your child gets help, the sooner they can start feeling better.

The breaking point is usually the same. Your teen is trying to work through strong feelings. Although they can reflect, they cannot see a positive outcome in their future and they cannot manage their daily lives as well. When they avoid pleasurable activities or stop talking to family or friends, it’s time to open the doors for them.

If your child experiences the following depressive symptoms, it may be time to seek teen counseling for depression services:

  • Feeling sad, hopeless or worthless
  • Having low self-esteem
  • Losing interest in things they used to enjoy
  • Isolating and withdrawing from friends and family
  • Having trouble in school, declining grades
  • Having low or no energy
  • Changes in weight
  • Feeling angry or irritable, even at minor things
  • Changes in sleep

It’s essential to seek professional help right away if your teen exhibits severe signs of depression:

  • Making critical self-judgments
  • Experiencing conflicts at home or school
  • Having a hard time managing intense moods
  • Feeling empty or numb
  • Engaging in risky or destructive behaviors
  • Engaging in self-harm behaviors
  • Having suicidal thoughts

Causes and Risk Factors for Teen Depression

External stressors or intense situations are often the primary reasons teens enter therapy. These situations can bring on feelings of insurmountable anxiety or depression in your teen that can be challenging to face on their own.

Maybe your teen is going through their first break-up and is flooded with feelings of misery that seem everlasting. Or your teen refuses to go back to school after being out for an extended period, worried about what their peers may think of them or how they may acclimate. Possibly, they may move to a new home and struggle to assimilate. While the exact cause of teen depression is unknown, experts believe it could be a combination of these factors:

  • Brain chemistry: Researchers believe impaired or abnormal neurotransmitters in the brain can lead to depression.
  • Hormones: Changes in the body’s balance of hormones, especially as teens go through puberty, can trigger depression.
  • Inherited traits: If you have a close relative with depression, you have a higher chance of developing the condition yourself.
  • Early childhood trauma: Trauma in early childhood, such as emotional or physical abuse, can trigger changes in the brain that increase a teen’s risk of depression.

Other risk factors for teen depression and anxiety include:

  • Having other mental health conditions, like bipolar disorder, anorexia or a personality disorder
  • Experiencing ongoing pain or a chronic physical illness such as cancer, diabetes or asthma
  • Facing issues that impact self-esteem, such as long-term bullying or obesity
  • Possessing certain personality traits, such as low self-esteem or being self-critical
  • Having a learning disability or attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
  • Identifying as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender in an unsupportive environment

If you see signs of mental health problems in your teenager and these issues interfere with their daily life, it’s time to talk to a professional teen counselor.

How Teenage Counseling Can Help

How Counseling for Teenagers Can Help

Parents often walk on eggshells as they try to appease their teens, or they get into huge arguments when they disapprove of their behavior. In therapy, there is a compromise between the resolution parents are seeking and what the teenager is ready to handle.

A counselor for teens will generally take the following approach:

1. Listening Without Judgement

Firstly, there is no judgment when teens present their difficulties. It’s okay if they hide behind a hoodie or refuse to share initially. Teens need someone who understands what they’re going through and listens without judging them — someone who makes them feel like they’re talking to one of their friends.

After all, you share secrets with a trusted confidante, not your parent. As teens feel more comfortable, they let their guard down. It’s when adolescents are most vulnerable that they are open to other viewpoints and ideas.

2. Improving Communication

Over time, as trust is built, we will get to the point where they can open up and be vulnerable. Teen perspectives and attitudes can be an asset to working through the problems at hand. It’s essential to let teens take the lead and approach sessions as more conversational than directive.

The best results from therapy occur as situations come up gradually, and we explore them as questions rather than conclusions. If a roadblock is discovered and we decide together to call it by name, then your teenager is determining what they want to change on their own. Then, we can take a more definitive approach and explore possible solutions.

 

3. Exploring Possible Solutions

Communication with parents will slowly improve as they become less overwhelmed and more willing to accept help from others. It’s great to get to the point where they recognize they have options for how to solve challenges, and they are willing to experiment. Even more so, when they can relate success stories and welcome others’ feedback, they show they are more versatile in their approach to intense situations.

Finding the Right Therapist for Your Teen

Getting Your Teen on Board

Before you broach the subject of therapy, remember that teenagers might be averse to it due to shame or confusion about their emotions. If you have a teenager who is refusing therapy, remind them you are a team, use gentle motivation and describe the many benefits of accepting support instead of forcing them into it.

Facilitating Connection and Comfort

If it feels appropriate, you can involve your teenager in researching and choosing a therapist with whom they think they might get along. You can also let them know they can speak to you about anything they wish, but you’ll also respect their privacy. Build trust and their self-esteem by letting them know they have agency in making decisions about their therapy journey.

Ensuring Specialization and Experience

It’s essential to research the person you’re entrusting to provide teenage counseling to your child. Find out about required certifications in your state and check the person you choose is properly qualified to support teenagers. The fully licensed members of the Courageous Kids Counseling team offer therapy for teens in Nyack, NY, and online for patients throughout the state. We’re available to help your child find joy again.

Considering Practicality

Before making any decisions, remember to consider logistics. Will your insurance cover the therapy? Do online or in-person sessions best suit you and your teen? Are you looking for someone who socializes with the issues your teen is facing, like anxiety or trauma? Therapy for teens can be hugely beneficial, and approaching it in the right way can help your child get the most out of the experience.

Benefits of Therapy for Teenagers

It takes patience and compassion to help teens. Therapy for teens can help. At Courageous Kids Counseling, we use CBT, EMDR, DBT, biofeedback and other solution-focused approaches to help your teen feel better. We aim for our patients to experience the following benefits:

  • Understand the root causes of their feelings, thoughts and behaviors.
  • Gain the tools to make changes that help them feel and function better.
  • Feel empowered to use what they learn to solve any issues they face.

Attending counseling sessions can also help improve your teen’s overall mood and self-esteem. Through therapy, teens establish and strengthen vital skills like:

  • Assertiveness
  • Empathy
  • Effective communication
  • Self-awareness
  • Emotion regulation

A Client Success Story

Peter*, a 16-year-old teen, reluctantly followed his mom into my office. He sat down and repeatedly shrugged when I introduced myself and asked him what brought him in to see me. When his mother explained the situation during his silence, he looked at her with disdain. It was evident that he was not a willing participant.

After learning more about his school suspension, I requested that his mom let us talk alone. I shared with him that many teens feel annoyed by having to have sessions with me, and it was nothing personal. I asked him if he knew why he was there, not expecting him to have an answer. I talked about myself and shared some humorous anecdotes, trying to make him feel at ease.

I then let him know that he did not have to speak about himself, but if he didn’t mind sharing a bit, it would be better than silence. That made him smile slightly, which gave me an opening to ask him a question.

Starting with school, I asked broad questions about friends and his favorite classes. We also talked a bit about his home life, including his relationship with his parents. Slowly, as he let down his guard, I was able to approach the issue of being suspended. Peter mentioned he had fought with another student. I asked him a little more about the situation, and I discovered he fought because he was offended by the other student’s comment and did not like being humiliated.

I encouraged him to speak freely while occasionally asking general questions about his feelings toward other students. I discovered, through listening to him talk, that he was very insecure about how others saw him. I mentally filed this away to explore in the future.

Throughout our next sessions together, we explored situations about which he felt comfortable and confident and then ones that made him feel small and vulnerable. We kept notes of some themes that came out of our discussions. As he became more aware and less defensive, he agreed that some of these were things he wanted to change.

By allowing him to take the lead and formulating an understanding of patterns, we moved closer to the next steps of how to handle conflicts. Eventually, we figured out some ways he could better manage anger and even identified some practice situations.

We also shared this with his mother when he felt ready. It seemed as if his confidence grew when he did not feel villainized, but instead, he was able to say what he wanted to do differently.

Celebrating wins with teenagers can be challenging because they are not always obvious. Sometimes, your teen may even doubt that they will have similar success in the future. But it’s important to congratulate them and have their parents share in their success so they know they are not on a solitary journey.

*Name changed to preserve client confidentiality.

Book a Complimentary Call for Teen Therapy in New York at Courageous Kids Counseling

Depression, anxiety and other mental health conditions are common among young adults, but they are also treatable. A licensed teen therapist can help your child flourish by guiding them to improve communication and problem-solving skills, emotional regulation and other vital life skills. You can trust our dedicated behavioral health clinicians to help your child reach new heights.

Courageous Kids Counseling specializes in teen counseling in New York. Our office is in Nyack for in-person sessions, or you can choose our convenient online option. Virtual treatment allows the same standard of care without requiring the stress and time it takes to travel to an appointment.

Our goal is to help your teens navigate life and the many changes that arise at this stage. We treat anxiety, depression, trauma and other difficulties so they can feel empowered to live a happier, healthier life. You got through this, and your adolescent will, too.

Book a free 15-minute consultation or fill out our contact form with any questions.

Teen Therapy FAQ

The following are some of the most commonly asked questions we receive about therapy for teenagers:

1. What if My Child Doesn't Want to Go to Therapy?

Teens are on a tumultuous journey toward finding themselves, and it’s only natural that they might need some support along the way. They’ll deal with problems that affect how they feel, act and learn. It can help to remind your teen of all the ways they can feel better by speaking to a professional. Going to therapy will help them cope and communicate more effectively. It can help to remind them of these benefits so they feel empowered to help themselves in therapy.

If you reach the point where you might think your teen needs therapy, rest assured you’re not overreacting. Do not fear you will isolate them or turn them off from talking to you because they are already at their lowest point. You can get back your relationship with your teen.

2. How Does Counseling for Teens Work?

In therapy, your teen will learn by doing. The process includes:

  • Talk: Your teen will talk through feelings so we can learn more about them and their specific goals.
  • Activities: We use activities to teach your teen about their feelings and coping skills. For instance, we might teach mindfulness as a healthy way to calm down and cope with stress.
  • Practice skills and solve problems: Therapy also helps build healthy thinking patterns and behavioral habits. Your teen will learn how to solve problems as we discuss them in therapy and help them apply them at school or home.
  • Praise and support: Therapists give praise and support as teens learn. The goal is to help them feel empowered and confident as they recognize their strengths.

We can also meet with parents to give tips and ideas for ways to help their teens at home.

3. How Can I Be Involved in My Teen's Therapy?

It makes sense that you would want to be involved in your teen’s therapy sessions. In many instances, collaboration with your teen’s therapist is beneficial. But you will want to do it carefully to protect your teen’s confidentiality and the therapeutic relationship.

While you may have the desire to express your concerns and check in, it’s also important for your teen to be able to trust their counselor and feel that their privacy is valued. Including your teenager in the conversation is a good way to communicate what you notice without “going behind their back.”

It also lets your teen know about your concerns so there are no surprises. Be prepared for your teen to have a different point of view, which you can discuss together in family counseling if everyone is on board.

Developing an alliance with your teen is important so they feel protected and supported. We value your support in helping your teen heal.

4. What Problems Does a Therapist for Teens Help With?

We are trained and experienced to help with various problems teens encounter. For instance, we can help teens through tough issues like school, family, bullying and health issues. In addition, we can help teens struggling with feelings like:

  • Sadness
  • Anger
  • Stress and worry
  • Low self-esteem
  • Grief

Therapists also have the training and experience to help teens with mental health conditions like:

  • ADHD
  • Depression
  • Anxiety and OCD
  • Eating disorders
  • Trauma-related disorders
  • Self-injury

4. What Problems Does a Therapist for Teens Help With?

The length of therapy will depend on your teen’s needs and the therapist’s discretion. The frequency of meetings can also vary depending on the counselor’s availability and the teen’s goals.

6. Is It Too Late for My Teen to Make a Change?

Absolutely not. Your teen is still growing and developing, mentally, physically, and emotionally. While they may be experiencing ups and downs as a result, this is an opportunity for self-exploration and transformation. Sometimes teens can feel stuck or self-conscious.

Through teen counseling, they can look at situations with new perspectives so they can act and think differently. Getting support for your troubled teen when they first start having difficulties is usually far more successful than waiting until problems get worse.

Taking the steps to help your teen will have a positive ripple effect so they can cope with new situations and feel better about the future.

Want to know where to start?

In our work together, we will uncover what is missing from your child’s life, what’s holding them back in worry and despair, and what are the ways we can help them move toward a place of happiness and fulfillment.

We provide convenient online sessions.

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